Resolving the Question of Where Mom Should Live
You find yourself spending more time at your care recipient’s house than at your house… Is it time to combine both households? We’ll help you decide whether moving in together is best for you, your care recipient and your family.
Combining households is just one of many decisions you make in your caregiving role. As always, keep in mind that you know what’s best and your decisions will reflect that. And, as you hear from other family caregivers, keep in mind that each situation is different, with variances and variables that may require different solutions.
Some tips to help you make good decisions:
1. Explore all possibilities. Anything is possible, but only if you believe it to be so.
2. Research all options. Understanding your options helps you narrow the options to the solution that will work.
3. Ask for input. Ask other family members, members of your support group, your care recipient (if appropriate), health care professionals, your minister or rabbi anyone who can offer a perspective.
4. Keep your perspective about other’s input. After asking others for their input (as opposed to their advice), consider your knowledge, insights and, most important, gut reaction to the situation. You know best.
5. Be open to changing the decision. Situations can change on a dime; have a Plan B and Plan C ready in case you need them.
6. Be flexible to tweak your decision; you may stick with the decision but change the details of it and that’s okay.
7. Honor the emotions of the decision. Some decisions may seem to be no-brainers; other may have you teary-eyed and overwhelmed. Decisions often mean change, which may mean more losses for you and your care recipient.